Girl, you need to stop and give yourself a pat on the back. If I could have written my younger self a letter with this advice, It would’ve made the list of advice. How about you?

As women, we can be so hard on ourselves. Saying things to ourselves that we would never dream of saying to anyone else. Justifying it as I’m just being honest with myself.

Why do we feel the need to tear ourselves down when we should instead give ourselves a pat on the back for all the accomplishments and obstacles we overcome.

All the juggling and balancing we do in life. It is truly amazing. But, instead of giving ourselves the sweet reward of self-praise, love, and admiration for a job well done.

We look at all the things that we judged to be below par. Creating a long list of how we could have done it better.

Instead of sayin’ “Heck ya girl, you nailed that,” along with a well-deserved pat on the back.

Stop being so hard on yourself.

Why look outside for others to empower us? Do it your dang self!

Don’t get me wrong, I, too, am a work in progress when it comes to self-praise; I accept that. This acceptance allows me grace when I notice these negative thoughts and feelings.

Flipping the script and giving myself a pat on the back for a job well done is self-empowerment.

Stories

We tend to make up all these stories in our minds of what is going to happen.

The only thing these stories do is keep us stuck. We will never really know until we do the hard thing. Once it’s done, give yourself that well-deserved pat on the back.

✁ Just a Snippet

Here is just a snippet of the essential points, you know, for the skimmer in you. 🤪

• As women, we can be so hard on ourselves. Saying things to ourselves that we would never dream of saying to anyone else. Justifying it as I’m just being honest with myself.
• Why do we feel the need to tear ourselves down when we should instead give ourselves a pat on the back for all the accomplishments and obstacles we overcome.
• We look at all the things that we judged to be below par. Creating a long list of how we could have done it better.
• Instead of sayin’ “Heck ya girl, you nailed that,” along with a well-deserved pat on the back.
• Why is it better to accept praise from others for our accomplishments but not give ourselves thanks and self-praise?
• The only thing these stories do is keep us stuck. We will never really know until we do the hard thing. Once it’s done, give yourself that well-deserved pat on the back.

Hey Gir!

Did you like this post? Well, you may like this one too! Just Saying. (;

These words are hard for me to write and even harder for me to say. I’m not for everyone. Why is this simple phrase so difficult for me to accept? That’s the work that I’m doing for myself. Why is it so hard to accept that it is okay that I’m not for everyone? It’s my fear of rejection.

Hello. If we haven't met before, my name is Michele and I am a life and success coach utilizing my experience as a certified online business manager to help female entrepreneurs achieve their goals, their visions, their dreams, so they can live a good life and actually have time to enjoy it.

Figuring it out

I’ve been able to pinpoint my fear of rejection to two major life events.

1. My Dad
2. Getting Laid Off From My Job

My parents married young and were divorced by the time I hit second grade. It’s not an uncommon childhood story. Lots of kids live this exact same thing. But, why has my story led me to believe that I need to be accepted by everyone? Instead of embracing that I’m not for everyone.

When I think about my dad, my first thought is, ‘spending time with her is not as fun as spending time in the bar with my friends.’ I know the exact memory that has caused this thinking.

My brother and I were waiting for our dad to pick us up to spend the weekend with him. It wasn’t often that we went to spend time with him and I was super excited, only to be let down.

My brother and I waited with our little bags packed. We waited and waited but he never came.

Later that evening, in our one-bedroom house, I overheard my Mom talking to my Dad and he was too busy having fun at the bar to get us. He was too busy having fun.

I was like 7 at the time. That memory, and even writing it out, now brings tears to my eyes. My thoughts: I'm not fun enough to be around. Partying is more fun than spending time with me.

The second was getting laid off from my job.

Really, the whole conversation is a blur in my head now. My boss had set a meeting with me. Which I was very thankful for because I had a number of outstanding items that I needed to discuss with him.

My chipper hello was quickly chased away with his cold uncaring voice telling me that someone from HR was on the phone and he would transfer me to review my severance package. The sales department was going through a restructuring. My position has been eliminated and I was now being laid off effective immediately.

Rejected. Not good enough.

Flipping the script

It’s funny because my heart knows that it was God, actually protecting me. He was protecting me from a Dad that didn’t know how to really love and care for his kids. Now I know, he was hurting and was wrapped up in his own mind drama. Spending time with him would not have been healthy. The Lord was protecting me from a job that I didn’t love that made me toxic.

But in my mind, it felt like rejection. It felt like I’m not enough, someone or something else is better than me. But the truth is, I’m not for everyone. And that’s okay! I am me, I have a purpose, a mission, a destiny. I am daily evolving into who I was created to be.

Now, in the middle between who I was and who I will become, is right and good. We are who we need to be in every moment of our lives, this is the gift of God that we learn and we grow and get to experience all the stages of our lives in living color.

I’m not for everyone, but I’m here for those that I’m destined to cross paths. I am good enough and this knowledge brings meaning and purpose to my life.

This is me working through my baggage. I really hope it helps someone else work through their baggage too.

✁ Just a Snippet

Here is just a snippet of the important points, you know for the skimmer in you. 🤪

• I’m not for everyone. Why is this simple phrase so difficult for me to accept?
• My thought, that’s exactly what I need. I’m currently an OBM, how do I make money as a life and success coach?
• It’s uncovering my baggage that I keep hidden in the back of my mind.
• My thoughts were saying, you need to be like someone else. If you are not being yourself it is okay if people reject you.
• I’ve been able to pinpoint my fear of rejection to two major life events.
• It’s funny because my heart knows that it was God, actually protecting me.
• But in my mind, it felt like rejection.