Mentally tired after a long day in meetings, I wandered to the kitchen, grabbing another Copycat Chilled Crumbl Sugar Cookie. After polishing it off, I uttered, “What’s wrong with me?” Ugh, those ugly words judging the decision. Let me ask, have you ever uttered to yourself what's wrong with me?
Maybe it is self-judgment?
First off, nothing is wrong with me, and nothing is wrong with you. Instead, it’s our tunnel vision. Our self-judgment causes this belief. We get so focused on the end outcome or the goal that we've set for ourselves.
But, here’s the thing, whether you're aiming at losing a little weight or struggling to start a business, or working to save money, whatever that goal or outcome is. If you have a little bit of emotional attachment to achieving, the self-judgment seems to kick in.
What are you working towards?
Whatever you're working towards, your mind is looking to the finish line. Your mind is looking over there sad and frustrated that you’re here sabotaging yourself and not there celebrating achieving the goal.
You guessed it, the unreal, unrealistic expectation you set on yourself leads to believe that something is wrong with you.
The thought of what's wrong with me is that you are not actually accepting who you are for right now. That person is going through the process to reach the goal that you desire.
Instead, your mind is only thinking about what you don't have and not about what you do have. It's placing judgments on the results that you’ve accomplished thus far.
Falling into the trap of what’s wrong with me thinking, my life coach recommended that I read The GAP and The GAIN. This book is a game-changer. If you too fall into the “What’s wrong with me” thinking, get this on your reading list. The GAP and the GAIN by Dr. Sullivan and Dr. Benjamin Hardy, you see, when you live in the gap, you're continuously wishing your life had something different or better. That's in the gap.
Are you a gap thinker?
You think that happiness and success are something you pursue and you'll have in the future. What's wrong with me? That's gap thinking. You're always thinking that nothing is good enough and that you're not accepting you for you.
It is as if you think the clouds will part, the sun is gonna shine down on you. You’ll suddenly hear that angelical sound from the heavens come down at you.
When you decide to focus on loving the process and the progress that puts you in the immediate effects of the gain.
So the book goes on to explain it's human nature for us to be in the gap and the gain is the antidote. You see, the gain creates immediate happiness. Matter of fact, the gain connects you to yourself and your own progress. The gain transforms everything it gives you power over the direction of your life. Here’s how it works: the gain gets you out of the gap.
Again, if you've not read this book, get it on your reading list today. And Hey, if you've already read it, read it again, because it's that good.
Little Side Note
What book have you read that was a game-changer in your life?
I'd love for you to share in the comments below.
The power of belief
What if, instead of dwelling on the long list that you've created in your mind of what's wrong with you? What if instead, you take away the power of that belief?
This is important, what if you commit to focusing on your progress, focus on the process, and focus on the person that you are working to become.
For instance, if you told yourself the story is I'm working towards (insert that personal goal) that you've set for yourself.
If you are looking for that person that has your back, I invite you to apply for my private coaching. The link is here down below.
Should you find yourself questioning “What’s wrong with me?” remember that you have the power to change your thinking. Nothing is wrong with you, it’s simply time for self-awareness. Notice when this thought comes up and change the story you’re telling yourself.
Fortunately, there’s a simple solution: pull out your journal to examine why you made the decision you made. Once you discover the decision driver, figure out how you will handle it in the future. Pre decides what you will do next time when faced with a similar situation.
I appreciate you. I hope you have a wonderful week and I'll see you back here next week.
Private Coaching
Why do I believe in the power of private coaching?
Because it is truly life-changing. When your coach asks you that mind-blowing question that suddenly allows you to see what you've been missing all along that was literally right in front of your face.
You just need someone with a different perspective to help you see it.
Are you ready to experience life from a different perspective?
