Hmm, I'm not sure if you have, but I know I have totally been in that boat before second-guessing a decision that I spent a great deal of time actually making in the first place.
When you second guess your decision, or you doubt the decision that you've made in the past, it tells your brain that you're not good at making decisions.
Here are three tips when you find yourself second-guessing decisions.
Tip One – That’s not true
Tip number one, when the thought of second-guessing decision pops into your mind, simply tell yourself, it's not true, and begin to list off the evidence as to why it's not true.
Why was it a good decision to begin with?
Second-guessing for me comes up around software applications. I have a true passion for jumping in and figuring out new and different software.
This is where I really see that second-guessing of my decision-making comes up.
If I hear of different software that an online business is using and loves. The thoughts begin to circle in my brain, questioning my decision if the new and shiny software would be better than the current software that I’m using.
What I do is step back and look at why I made the decision, to begin with, because I genuinely do not take any decision lightly.
I research everything before I make any big buying decisions or any type of big decisions for my business.
Instead of going down the rabbit hole of overthinking and second-guessing, I simply pause and reflect as to why this second-guessing is coming up.
Tell my overthinking brain, that’s not true, and remind myself the decision was made for a reason and with care.
Tip Two – What’s the trigger?
Tip number two is to figure out what triggered the thought for why you're second-guessing your decision.
This is some really good feedback on your decision strategy.
Did you hear somebody else talking about it?
Well, if your decision-making strategy includes hearing people talk about or getting trusted recommendations for purchases, it might spark your decision strategy to come up in your brain.
Begin to question why you’ve started down the path of second-guessing your decision.
What triggered you to begin to question your previous decision?
But here’s the thing in the world of NLP, there's never a failure, there's only feedback.
Let’s look at that feedback to figure out what triggers the second-guessing of your decision-making.
Tip Three is to give yourself grace
Well first off at that moment, it was the best decision for you and your online business.
Well, you need to realize that all the back and forth of second-guessing your decision keep you stuck in the past instead of living in the present and being the best business owner that you are right now.
Now, this is important you must believe in your decision-making ability as a business owner.
The problem is the constantly second-guessing decisions is actually not believing in the fact that you can make good decisions and good choices as an online business owner.
We both know that’s not true. Give yourself grace, you're capable of making good decisions.
And on top of that, all the second-guessing is wasting your time and energy.
Here’s what I mean second-guessing your decisions only adds to decision fatigue.
I’ve talked about it before, our brains can only handle so much in a given day. Second-guessing decisions adds to your decision fatigue.
Stopping that, give yourself grace with your decision-making ability.
I'm going to leave you with my mantra for the year: Business is easy when I take messy, imperfect action.
When I find myself second-guessing a decision that I made for my business I tell myself that’s not true. Ask what’s triggering this right now. Give myself grace, because business is easy when I take messy imperfect action.
I encourage you to believe in yourself. Be confident in your decision-making abilities because I know you're doing the best you can for your online business.
Little Side Note
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✁ Just a Snippet
Here is just a snippet of the important points, you know for the skimmer in you. 🤪
- Stop yourself when you second guess your decisions
- When you second guess or doubt your decisions it tells ours brains that we aren't good at decision making
- Tip 1 – When this pops up, simply tell yourself that's not true and begin to list the evidence that's it's not true
- Instead of going down the rabbit hole of overthinking and second-guessing, I simply pause and reflect as to why this second-guessing is coming up.
- Tip 2 – Figure out what triggered the thought on why you’re questioning the decision. This is the best feedback.
- In the NLP world, it is never a failure always feedback.
- Use this feedback to figure out what triggers second-guessing your decisions.
- Tip 3 – Give yourself Grace – at that moment, it was the best decision for you and your online business.
- Second-guessing keeps us stuck in the past, instead of living in the present and being the best person right now.
- Believe in your decision-making abilities.
- Leave you with my mantra: Business is easy when I take messy imperfect action
