Feel The Disappointment In Yourself

Disappointment in yourselves, right? We've all been there. Some of us a little bit more than others. What if you choose to feel the disappointment and look for what it shows you. 

What are you talking about, Michele?

Now I get your confusion around “feeling” disappointment. Heck, pretty sure up until I deep-dived into thoughts and feelings that caused my actions that created results, I walked around ignoring what I was truly thinking and feeling. You’re preaching to the choir. It’s okay because this took me a little bit myself to get.

What the heck does that mean?

Yeah. Right? What does that mean? When I’m feeling disappointed in myself, this tends to come up when I'm dwelling on the past.

When I’m disappointed and stuck in the past, dwelling on something that I have zero ability to change, where does that show up in my body? Trust me; once you focus your attention like actually pay attention to your body, you’ll begin to notice the physical sensation of how disappointment feels in your body.

As you’re paying attention, the physical feeling comes up. Sit with it; let it be there. Take notice, say, Hey Disappointment, I see you.

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Feel the Disappointment

Here’s the thing I was constantly thinking about the next thing, never pausing to sit and acknowledge that I was disappointed. 

Here’s the interesting part, you'll physically feel it somewhere in your body. It’s the quiet, muted feel. You must be wondering what I mean; it’s the feeling of butterflies when you are nervous. Or that pit you feel in your stomach. That’s what I mean. 

Here’s why that's important when you do take notice, that will be how it shows up again. 

Then, you’ll be like oh hey, disappointment. Let’s go ahead and feel you. Let’s go ahead and honor that you’re feeling disappointed. You’ll feel it in your body, let the feeling run entirely through you, and then dissipate. 

I know what you’re thinking; yes, you'll know exactly what I mean when you pay attention to how it shows up and feels in your body. 

Now, let it go

As you visualize your disappointment, watch as you slowly let it go until the last tiny thread is released from your hands. Watch it float gently away from you. Can you see that? 

Are you seeing it float away from you in your mind? 

That's how I vision when I'm letting go of something, how that floats gently away as if it’s a piece of fabric in the wind. Feel the disappointment in your body and let it flow through you like a sheer piece of fabric, visualize and let that float beautifully away from you. 

As you're watching that fabric float gently away from you next, write out what you are choosing to feel instead of disappointment in yourself. 

Examine Your Disappointment

Where have you been disappointed with yourself? Step back into that time. I want you to feel what you are feeling.

I want you to hear what you heard, was somebody speaking with you? Were you talking out loud to yourself? Were you just talking to yourself in your brain? 

What were your thoughts and your feelings, and what did you hear? 

I'm only guessing your self-talk was not bright and cheery when you were disappointed in yourselves. It’s never is bright and cheerful self-talk. Let me guess; it was negative and mean. Words that you would never speak to your sister, friends, or daughter. 

When you’re disappointed in yourself, it may be because you have an exceptionally high standard for yourselves. I don't know about you, but I know I fall into that trap. Don’t get me wrong; high standards are a good thing. The problem is those exceptionally high standards are shooting for the moon. When you do not land on the moon, you choose to feel disappointment in yourself versus celebrating the small successes. 

It all boils down to this disappointment is only a thought that you have about yourself. Rather than holding onto that thought of disappointment. What if you let that emotion wash through you, let the disappointment be fleeting. Let it be a fleeting thought that goes away. As quickly as it comes, look at why you're thinking and feeling disappointed. Is it because you expect perfection, so aim for what you perceive as perfection and be happy with excellence. 

Above all, look at disappointment as a redirection for where you need to go. If you find you're stuck in disappointment, do a mind sweep of all of the thoughts and feelings you have that are causing you to feel disappointed in yourself. 

What is one small action you can take to put you on the right path to a better thought and a better feeling? Look at your disappointment from a neutral place.

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Remove the label

What is the label? Is it good, or is it bad? Good and bad, those are labels. Labels you put on things are either good or bad. 

It's just someone stating the news to you. Although this may be true, remove your own emotional biased; you were created with free will. You can use your free will to move you out of disappointment, or you can use it to keep you stuck in the thoughts of disappointment. Know that you get to choose what you think and your following action. 

Suppose you need that person in your corner to help you work through your disappointment and the things you have going on in your life and someone to be there to help you move forward to the next best action.I invite you to apply for my private coaching. Here is the link. 

I appreciate you. Thank you so much for your time, and I'll see you back here next week.