Do you feel like giving up on your goal? What do we do in those times when feeling like giving up is a better solution than actually trying to push through and reach your goal?
Friend, you are not alone we all have times like those. We all have days like that, heck I just had a week like that.
Embrace how your feeling
Everything your doing feels hard and not easy. If you’re feeling that way right now, it's okay to embrace the feeling. It's not gonna last forever, you’ll come out better on the other side.
The next time those feelings start to creep in on your momentum, here are a few ideas on how you can resist that feeling of wanting to give up and not continue to move forward towards your goal.
Look for the easy
When your days or weeks feel hard and you’re uncertain of the next best action or move take a step back and look at it from a different angle.
Right now at this moment, reaching my goal feels hard. So the opposite of hard, obviously, is easy.
What are you working on the feels hard? Or are you not working on anything at all, are you just looking at your goal as unattainable?
The question to ask is how can I move it from feeling hard to over to feeling easy.
Do I need to break it down a bit more into a few simpler action steps?
Let me give you an example. You’re creating an online course. You have record module one as your first task.
Ugh. Of course, that feels hard, that one action has a LOT of little actions that need to take place before you can record module one.
For example here are some of the small actions you can break this action item down into.
- Draft an outline of the main points
- Add sub-points to the main points on the outline
- Pick a slide template – Canva has a ton by the way
- Create three slides
Break it down
Breaking the big lofty goals into smaller action steps and breaking them down again is a fantastic way to make it feel easier and prevents you from throwing in the towel on your goal.
What’s the story?
Friends, lean in for this one. Does it feel really hard or is that just the story that you’re telling yourself, in your own mind?
Is your mind, telling you it has to be done this way or that way, or stop doing it that way. Or maybe it worse. Maybe your mind is telling you a negative enough story. They are the worst, You’re not smart enough, know enough. Blah, blah, blah.
Stop that storytelling, it’s only hard because that is the story your telling yourself. And that, Friend, is what makes it feel hard.
Sometimes we just need to step back, and really identify that it’s our own self that is causing us to get in our own way to self-sabotage.
You know what, sometimes things feel, quick and easy and other times the struggle is real.
To get out of that mindset, it's just a matter of how to shift that struggle into something that's, well not a struggle anymore.
How do you get out of the struggle mindset?
One of the best ways, if you’ve followed me for any amount of time I'm sure this is gonna be a shocker 😂, take pen to paper and write it out. Mind sweep all the particular points that feel like a struggle, next write down specifically what feels hard.
Now, ask what is the next thing. One small action to move forward.
Today, if this one little thing was done, it would give momentum towards the goal.
Friend, do you know what?
Sometimes, that one thing is just making the decision to make a decision. 🤯mind-blowing I know.
Step into the action with a decision, this one decision may be what is need to get into the flow and excitement to figure out the next small action. Causing a snowball effect to get that progressive movement towards your goal.
Give yourself grace
Make sure to give yourself grace, when things feel hard when you’re not wanting to do something, and your stuck feeling that struggle.
It's truly taking the time to evaluate why you feel that way. Why you’re thinking this way.
Step back and get out of your own mind. Because the problem is, and I speak from experience, we get so much into our own minds.
It becomes really difficult for us to step away and see that there is a different route.
If you're struggling on your own to gain a different perspective, chat with somebody, find a business bestie or accountability partner.
Find somebody to talk through your roadblocks when it becomes hard, someone that has your back when it becomes hard.
I think I've mentioned before that I do have a group called the Clarity Muse Mentorship, and if you need a cheerleader, or you need help working through these or you need help with setting up your goals or moving past all of these mindset things. Join. We'd love to have you in there. And as always, if you have any questions, go ahead and leave me a comment. I appreciate you and have a wonderful day.
Little Side Note
If you are constantly getting in your own way. Check out this article from Yes Supply on Self-Sabotaging.
✁ Just a Snippet
Here is just a snippet of the important points, you know for the skimmer in you. 🤪
- When giving up feels like a better solution than trying to push through and achieve your goals.
- Everything your doing feels hard and not easy.
- The question to ask is how can I move it from feeling hard to over to feeling easy.
- Do I need to break it down a bit more into a few simpler action steps?
- Is your mind, telling you it has to be done this way or that way, or stop doing it that way.
- Step back and get out of your own mind.
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