I know what it is like to be caught up in overthinking. The last time I checked, overthinking about all the things that bring us joy and happiness doesn’t cause stress and overwhelm. Nope, our stress and overwhelm come from overthinking our future, past, and all the things we think could go wrong. All the junk that we have little to no control over.

2 AM Thinking

I wonder if you can relate to my favorite overthinking that happens in my mind. All those past conversations that I need to rehash in my brain. Why did I say that I should have said this, or I forgot to mention that.

Talk about a big waste of time.

Let me walk you through how I handle it; this just happened to me the other night at 2 AM!

My mind started repeating a conversation I had the day before. Once I noticed what was happening, I told my brain to hold up, Michele; you are in the past, nothing you can do about it now, just let it go. When it resurfaced a bit later, I simply said Michele, let it go.

How about you?

Really, here’s the thing what are the chances of the exact conversation coming up again? Well, unless you’re chatting with a two-year-old, then the possibility of repeat conversations doesn’t come up.

How to overcome your overthinking

Here are suggestions on how to overcome your overthinking.

Find a go-to mantra or prayer when you notice you are beginning to overthink a situation.
An example could be: I’m not sure what will happen next, and that’s okay. I’ll find a solution when the time is right.

Pull out your journal and break down what is causing you to spin into overthinking. Our overthinking is just thoughts. Our thoughts create our action or, worst, our inaction. Put all that overthinking on paper and keep writing until you are off the spinning wheel of overthinking.

What if you’re not able to journal? No problem, simply pause and kindly tell your brain, thank you for keeping me safe, but that’s just a thought. I need not worry or overthink.

Laugh about it! Let out a laugh when you notice that your thoughts are running away from you.

Flip the script; what are you grateful for? Tell your mind that you are so thankful for preparing for disaster. But right now, we will focus on the good in our lives. We will be grateful for all we have and not worry about the rest.

Try these out, and let me know if they work for you!

✁ Just a Snippet

Here is just a snippet of the important points you know for the skimmer in you. 🤪

The last time I checked, overthinking about all the things that bring us joy and happiness doesn’t cause stress and overwhelm.

You may have guessed, our minds are continuously searching for different ways to keep us safe from the made-up disaster that we create in our own heads.

Once I noticed what was happening, I told my brain to hold up, Michele; you are in the past, nothing you can do about it now, just let it go.

The problem is, all our overthinking causes overwhelm and dissatisfaction in our lives.

No problem, simply pause and kindly tell your brain, thank you for keeping me safe, but that’s just a thought. I need not worry or overthink.

What should be prioritized

Here’s the big secret. You need to determine what will always get your yes. That is how you determine what is a priority and what needs to be a no.

I love, love, love personal development. Podcasts, books, YouTube videos give me all the personal development.

In fact, one of my guilty pleasures is watching YouTube videos on anything in my perception that will make me a better person. My binge list includes productivity, time management, mindfulness, living a minimal life, cleaning (yep I like to watch videos on cleaning hacks), the list goes on and on.

My point is that personal development is on my list of priorities, however, it does not come before my husband, children, my faith, my business.

On A Ladder

In the book, Take Back Your Time: The Guilt-Free Guide to Life Balance, Christy Wright talks about how most of us see our priorities on all one level. She sees it as a pyramid. It’s funny because I see my own priorities on a vertical ladder or steps. The more important it is in my life the higher on the ladder it climbs.

How do you view your priorities? Are they all on the same playing level or do you have a hierarchy?

If you do not have a hierarchy I encourage you to come up with what should be prioritized. When you do this it makes it much easier to know what needs to get your “yes” and what needs to get your “no”.

Do you need help with finding balance in your life and business? I’d welcome you to apply to work with me. Here is a link to my Life and Success Coaching inquiry form.

✁ Just a Snippet

Here is just a snippet of the important points, you know for the skimmer in you. 🤪

• Oh, but the joy that comes from checking boxes off the to-do list, feels so good. Am I right?
• You fill your calendar with a bunch of obligations that you feel you should do, but the only real joy comes when you get to check it off your list.
• A reminder that I give to myself and to my clients is when you say “yes” out of obligation you’ll be forced to say “no” to what matters and what should be prioritized first in your life.
• You need to determine what will always get your yes.
• My point is that personal development is on my list of priorities, however, it does not come before my husband, children, my faith, my business.
• How do you view your priorities?
• Are they all on the same playing level or do you have a hierarchy?

Hello. If you're new here, my name is Michele and I am a life and success coach utilizing my experience as a certified online business manager to help female entrepreneurs achieve their goals, their visions, their dreams, so they can live a good life and actually have time to enjoy it.

That dang voice

When that dang voice in my head tells me to write a blog post and record a YouTube about a topic that is completely outside of my comfort zone that means sharing from my uncomfortable zone it is with my future self in mind. Because she knows that I’ve done the self-coaching to get past all the mind drama that has kept her fearful in business.

It reminds me of the Albert Einstein quote “We can't solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them.”

I think the same principle applies to decision-making. When we make decisions based on the person we are at that current moment, it may not have the best interest of our future self in mind.

In fact, it has the potential to keep your future self in the same place that you are today.

That’s scary in my eyes. Thinking back to the person I was starting my business. No way she would have the courage to write a blog post to share her true thoughts due to fear of judgment.

Instead of going outward, but turning inward when making decisions with a knowing that my future self understands that living “the good life” is having belief in my decision making.

Decision-making can feel hard or it can feel easy. We each get to choose our own path with that. I feel it’s hard when I spend hours being wishy-washy with my decisions. I feel it is easy when I make the decision while keeping how it will affect the future, in mind.

✁ Just a Snippet

Here is just a snippet of the important points, you know for the skimmer in you. 🤪

• This is a simple tip on how I handle these types of decisions. It’s simply asking will my future self thank me for this decision?
• Our future self is affected by all those little and big decisions that we make.
• My vision board has a future self that is fit, healthy, and happy. That has influenced my decision to begin a 40-Day Sugar Fast, 30-Day Yoga Challenge, get my life coaching certification and join a weekly bible study.
• When that dang voice in my head tells me to write a blog post and record a YouTube about a topic that is completely outside of my comfort zone that means sharing from my uncomfortable zone it is with my future self in mind
• When we make decisions based on the person we are at that current moment, it may not have the best interest of our future self in mind.
• Instead of going outward, but turning inward when making decisions with a knowing that my future self understands that living “the good life” is having belief in my decision making.