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What happens if you remove the not?

What happens if you remove the not?

by | Online Business

I cannot, I will not. I do not have time, I do not understand. I'm not sure how to do it. I'm not sure anybody wants it. What happens if you remove the not?

But really in the end any excuse will do.

So when you're not sure how to do something, do you dig in and figure out a solution? Or do you start to list off all of your nots?

What happens if you remove the not?

What if you take the not completely out of the equation? What if for one week you remove the not from your vocabulary? What would happen?

Just try it out, as if the word not wasn’t even an option. You are capable of so much more than you give ourselves credit for.

Not brave enough to remove it?

If you’re not brave enough to remove it for a week. How about, try this one instead, figure out how many times in a day that you limit yourself with self-talk that you're not capable?

Any idea?

How many times does your self-talk contain you’re not able or you cannot do something? Do you have any idea, track it, promise to pay people a dollar if they hear you say the word not or limit yourself in any way.

Tracking it will cause you to pay attention to how many times you were putting the label on yourself that you cannot do something.

Change the story

What if you change that story by eliminating the not from your vocabulary and removing the not from your mindset, what would shift for you, what would change for you?

Instead, your self-talk will be filled with; I can, I will, I have time, I do understand, I am sure how to do it and I am sure somebody will want this.

That my friend is how you begin to shift and change the story. Those stories are the difference makers, those are the ways that you can reframe it.

Tell Yourself What to Do

Changing the story, just tells your mind exactly what you want. Your self-talk needs to be shifted into I will, I can, I have time, I understand.

It has to be important

Say it's important to you, believe it’s important to you. If these are truly your dreams and your goals they cannot be more important to somebody else than they are to you.

You are the one to drive it, you need to be the one to make it happen. Because there's not going to be anybody else out there that cares more about your project, that cares more about your goals, that cares more about your dreams, that cares about your vision, and that cares more about your WHY there's not going to be anybody out there that cares more than you.

Get it out of there, all the I cannot, I'm not enough, whatever it is that you have cycling through in your brain.

You need to reframe that story, you need to think of it as I may not know right now, however, I can learn. I don't have time right now, but I can find the time. I may not understand the solution now, but I will look for the solution. It's just taking that time to recenter yourself around the things that you want, instead of trying to recenter yourself on the things you don't want.

It's changing the story in your mind so you know exactly what you want to do and why you want to do it. Now go get’em, tiger, I believe in you, and I appreciate you.

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Little Side Of Encouragement

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✁ Just a Snippet

Here is just a snippet of the important points, you know for the skimmer in you. 🤪

  • What if for one week you remove the not from your vocabulary? What would happen?
  • You are capable of so much more than you give ourselves credit for.
  • How many times does your self-talk contain you’re not able or you cannot do something?
  • Tracking it will cause you to pay attention to how many times you were putting the label on yourself that you cannot do something.
  • What if you change that story by eliminating the not from your vocabulary
  • Changing the story, just tells your mind exactly what you want.
  • If these are truly your dreams and your goals they cannot be more important to somebody else than they are to you.
  • Get it out of there, all the I cannot, I'm not enough, whatever it is that you have cycling through in your brain.
  • Fill your self-talk with; I can, I will, I have time, I do understand, I am sure how to do it and I am sure somebody will want this.

Whoa, guess I had a lot to say on this subject. As thanks for reading! Wish you success. 

Feel like giving up on your goal?

Feel like giving up on your goal?

by | Online Business, Planning-Organization-Productivity

Do you feel like giving up on your goal? What do we do in those times when feeling like giving up is a better solution than actually trying to push through and reach your goal?

Friend, you are not alone we all have times like those. We all have days like that, heck I just had a week like that.

Embrace how your feeling

Everything your doing feels hard and not easy. If you’re feeling that way right now, it's okay to embrace the feeling. It's not gonna last forever, you’ll come out better on the other side.

The next time those feelings start to creep in on your momentum, here are a few ideas on how you can resist that feeling of wanting to give up and not continue to move forward towards your goal.

Look for the easy

When your days or weeks feel hard and you’re uncertain of the next best action or move take a step back and look at it from a different angle.

Right now at this moment, reaching my goal feels hard. So the opposite of hard, obviously, is easy.

What are you working on the feels hard? Or are you not working on anything at all, are you just looking at your goal as unattainable?

The question to ask is how can I move it from feeling hard to over to feeling easy.

Do I need to break it down a bit more into a few simpler action steps?

Let me give you an example. You’re creating an online course. You have record module one as your first task.

Ugh. Of course, that feels hard, that one action has a LOT of little actions that need to take place before you can record module one.

For example here are some of the small actions you can break this action item down into.

  • Draft an outline of the main points
  • Add sub-points to the main points on the outline
  • Pick a slide template – Canva has a ton by the way
  • Create three slides
Feel like giving up on your goal?

Break it down

Breaking the big lofty goals into smaller action steps and breaking them down again is a fantastic way to make it feel easier and prevents you from throwing in the towel on your goal.

What’s the story?

Friends, lean in for this one. Does it feel really hard or is that just the story that you’re telling yourself, in your own mind?

Is your mind, telling you it has to be done this way or that way, or stop doing it that way. Or maybe it worse. Maybe your mind is telling you a negative enough story. They are the worst, You’re not smart enough, know enough. Blah, blah, blah.

Stop that storytelling, it’s only hard because that is the story your telling yourself. And that, Friend, is what makes it feel hard.

Sometimes we just need to step back, and really identify that it’s our own self that is causing us to get in our own way to self-sabotage.

You know what, sometimes things feel, quick and easy and other times the struggle is real.

To get out of that mindset, it's just a matter of how to shift that struggle into something that's, well not a struggle anymore.

How do you get out of the struggle mindset?

One of the best ways, if you’ve followed me for any amount of time I'm sure this is gonna be a shocker 😂, take pen to paper and write it out. Mind sweep all the particular points that feel like a struggle, next write down specifically what feels hard.

Now, ask what is the next thing. One small action to move forward.

Today, if this one little thing was done, it would give momentum towards the goal.

Friend, do you know what?

Sometimes, that one thing is just making the decision to make a decision. 🤯mind-blowing I know.

Step into the action with a decision, this one decision may be what is need to get into the flow and excitement to figure out the next small action. Causing a snowball effect to get that progressive movement towards your goal.

Give yourself grace

Make sure to give yourself grace, when things feel hard when you’re not wanting to do something, and your stuck feeling that struggle.

It's truly taking the time to evaluate why you feel that way. Why you’re thinking this way.

Step back and get out of your own mind. Because the problem is, and I speak from experience, we get so much into our own minds.

It becomes really difficult for us to step away and see that there is a different route.

If you're struggling on your own to gain a different perspective, chat with somebody, find a business bestie or accountability partner.

Find somebody to talk through your roadblocks when it becomes hard, someone that has your back when it becomes hard.

I think I've mentioned before that I do have a group called the Clarity Muse Mentorship, and if you need a cheerleader, or you need help working through these or you need help with setting up your goals or moving past all of these mindset things. Join. We'd love to have you in there. And as always, if you have any questions, go ahead and leave me a comment. I appreciate you and have a wonderful day.

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Little Side Note

If you are constantly getting in your own way. Check out this article from Yes Supply on Self-Sabotaging.

✁ Just a Snippet

Here is just a snippet of the important points, you know for the skimmer in you. 🤪

  • When giving up feels like a better solution than trying to push through and achieve your goals.
  • Everything your doing feels hard and not easy.
  • The question to ask is how can I move it from feeling hard to over to feeling easy.
  • Do I need to break it down a bit more into a few simpler action steps?
  • Is your mind, telling you it has to be done this way or that way, or stop doing it that way.
  • Step back and get out of your own mind.

Check out these other posts for inspiration if you feel like giving up on your goal?

Mind Mapping To Plan Your Goals
Simple Action to Mapping Your Next Project
Quarterly Planning May Not Be Sexy
Whoa, What Are You Committed To?

Whoa, What Are You Committed To?

by | Online Business

Well, I was not expecting this to come out in my morning pages. But it did. Some days my Morning Pages consist of jibberish that is circling in my head. All my to do that I’ve not captured yet on my Master Actions List in Notion and things that are distracting me. But, this little gem popped out at me. What are you committed to?

Hmm, that’s strange

And one of the things that came out in my morning pages was what are you committed to?

My first thought was, well, that's a strange thing. Why is that surfacing? Continuing to write, it all came out, my list of commitments.

My mind started listing off, are you committed to this? Are you committed to this, and a lot of it had to do with my personal health and fitness goals.

Because I'll be real, I used to lift every single day, and I got away from that I stopped doing it for some reason, I'd done it for years, years. And then just one day, I just stopped doing it. Because I’d rather be outside on a walk with the dogs than actually in the workout room lifting weights.

From that one choice from there, it just snowballed and now it’s been months since I picked up a weight.

As I sat there, you know, contemplating on all the different goals that I have for my overall health and fitness.

It came up, what are you committed to?

Whoa, What Are You Committed To? | Morning Page

The Why

Why was I not keeping up with my commitment to maintaining a strong healthy body? Well, I have lots of reason and in the end, the reason why I’m not doing matters little as to why I need to be doing it.

In order to hold true, I need to have a strong why. My why always circling back to my family. It was at that moment that I made the conscious decision to schedule lifting, along with my walks and yoga practice.

What came to me

Okay, so the thing that actually came out to me, you aren’t committed when things are hard, or you don't know the outcome or how it's going to be?

I'm committed to my health and fitness. But it felt really hard to actually just start again, which is weird because it's something I enjoy and love to do.

If you’ve ever been in my shoes before and stopped working out. The thought of starting again felt really hard to me.

I didn't want to be sore, and I didn't want to struggle because it would be hard.

But I had to change that thinking. And really ask but what are you committed to, do you want to be healthy? How are you going to do that if you're not willing to commit to anything?

So that was one of the ways that I flipped it. I also write out specifically, what's my why.

So why am I doing this? What's the purpose? And why do I want to be committed to this? And all of that came pouring out of me, so I could actually take a look.

Yeah, so now I've started lifting and I'm happy that I started. Was it hard that first day, heck ya, was I sore for two days and could hardly move? Yes, but I kept going, and within a few days, it felt better. The starting is all done and now it’s on to the progress. I can see every single day that I'm increasing, that it’s easier and it's getting better.

Limiting Belief

But it all had to start with that shift. It all had to start with me taking time to look at my limiting belief that I have. And realize that that's what it was, it was just a limiting belief.

And honestly, my desk is full of post-it notes of all of my different limiting beliefs.

Limiting beliefs has really become more apparent to me, as I've worked my way through my NLP training, that really, these thoughts that I have repeatedly in my head is just a limiting belief that I've gathered someplace and haven’t processed yet and replaced it with a new thought.

These limiting beliefs may be with me from my youth and are truly ingrained in my thought patterns.

I have to figure out ways in order to debunk these beliefs. Yeah, I worked so hard, I got that one debunk, I have to figure out ways to debunk my thinking. So, if I'm not willing to commit to something, what is the reason why I'm not committing to it?

Is it because my why isn’t strong enough? Is it because I haven't really sat down to let myself mentally think about why I need to be doing it.

What am I committed to, if I'm not committed is having a fit and healthy body then what truly is my goal if I'm not willing to commit to it?

So that is just the thought process in which I go through in order to try and look at how to make sure that I'm successfully moving forward towards my goals. Thank you so much for reading, and I appreciate you. Enjoy your day.

l

Little Side Note

Our limiting beliefs can be the thing that holds us back. Writing is one of the best ways to uncover them.

While this is a video from a few years ago, it's still relevant on Morning Pages. 

 

✁ Just a Snippet

Here is just a snippet of the important points, you know for the skimmer in you. 🤪

  • This little gem popped out at me in my morning pages. What are you committed to?
  • My first thought was, well, that's a strange thing. Why is that surfacing?
  • From that one choice there, it just snowballed I sat contemplating on all the different goals
  • So why am I doing this? What's the purpose? And why do I want to be committed to this?
  • I have to figure out ways in order to debunk these beliefs.
  • What am I committed to, if I'm not committed is having a fit and healthy body then what truly is my goal if I'm not willing to commit to it?