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Little Tiny Decisions

Take a moment and think about all the little tiny decisions you’ve made today. The good, bad, and the ugly little decisions that you made and probably didn’t give it a second thought. Do you know how all those little tiny decisions are adding up to have a long-term effect on your life?

Negative little tiny decisions add up

All the tiny decisions we make at the moment do not seem like much. The five dollars here or twenty dollars there. An extra bar or cookie to get you through the afternoon slump. Just one more episode of the latest binge-worthy TV show. All of those negative little tiny decisions at the moment will add up to negatively impact our lives in the long run.

Making negative little decisions will compound over time. We try to think that they won’t but they do. Those little tiny decisions compound into extra weight, decreased physical health, or missing a saving goal you’ve set for yourselves.

For me personally, an area that is a point of frustration is my little purchases. Amazon makes it so easy for me to spend five-dollar here or twenty dollars there. Thoughtless purchases that in the end do not add to my overall joy or happiness in my life.

Add up to overall stress

In fact, those impulsive purchases that at the moment I didn’t think much about and in the end actually add to my overall stress. Once I make that little tiny decision to buy now what other decisions will I need to make once it’s in my home? Will I truly love it or will it end up in the donation pile along with the guilt of money poorly spent.

Do you see how little tiny decisions can add up to clutter in our homes and in our minds?

The regret lingers long after the action is done.

What to do instead

As part of my self-coaching practice. I’m writing down all my negative little tiny decisions. Followed by, writing down what I will do next time instead.

Here is one of my entries, maybe you’ll be able to relate, maybe not.

I wish I hadn’t eaten the second bar. Now I feel sick. Next time, I’m going to pause. Remind me that one was so satisfying and it’s my thoughts trying to trick me. My thoughts. I’m good with just one bar. I’m proud of myself for saying no and sticking to only one.

Why write it down?

By writing this down and what I want I’ll do next time. I'm working to reframe the way I think. In Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) this is called a pattern interrupt.

What I’m doing is interrupting my current pattern of thinking to make what I feel are better little tiny decisions.

Even as I think about making better decisions I feel lighter, happier, at peace. It’s the feeling I want to carry with me all day long, every day.

Do you have areas in your life where your little decisions are starting to add up on you?

Are they adding up for the positive or the negative?

Have you given any thought to how they make you feel?

If you need that encouraging voice in your ear, the private coach to help you interrupt your current thought patterns. I invite you to apply to work with me. Here is the link.

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Little Side Note

Waiting to Start? Procrastination Is Your Obstacle this is the topic for next week, be sure to mark your calendar or subscribe here to be notified.

✁ Just a Snippet

Here is just a snippet of the important points, you know for the skimmer in you. 🤪

The good, bad, and the ugly little decisions that you made and probably didn’t give it a second thought
All of those negative little tiny decisions at the moment will add up to negatively impact our lives in the long run.
Those little tiny decisions compound into extra weight, decreased physical health, or missing a saving goal you’ve set for yourselves.
Little tiny decisions can add up to clutter in our homes and in our minds
Write down all my negative little tiny decisions. Followed by, writing down what you will do next time instead.
What I’m doing is interrupting my current pattern of thinking to make what I feel are better little tiny decisions.

Private Coaching

Why do I believe in the power of private coaching?

Because it is truly life-changing. When your coach asks you that mind-blowing question that suddenly allows you to see what you've been missing all along that was literally right in front of your face.

You just need someone with a different perspective to help you see it.

Are you ready to experience life from a different perspective?

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You should make more Mistakes

by Michele | Online Business

I don’t know, but I can be super impatient at times. After all, it has become easier and easier to have everything at our fingertips. As a result, leaving us with the expectation that everything will come instantly. Because not everything comes to us instantly. Some things take time sometimes; you need to Make More Mistakes.

To be a Master of anything takes time.

While we want to be a master, we want to be a master right now. However, to become a master at anything takes time. In fact, it takes trial and error. It takes learning how to do things. Furthermore, each of our brains thinks and learns differently.

Yes! Learn from others

Absolutely, take the course and get the certification; yes, do that. In other words, I 100% believe that we ought to be a team and learn from others who have walked the path to reduce our personal struggles.

However, we also must walk on our own to experience mistakes and grow as individuals. When we make mistakes, it gives us feedback on what we should do differently.

Making more mistakes is feedback.

In truth, making mistakes and using feedback allows us to expand as people. For one thing, life would be way serious if we were always worried about being perfect. Am I right?

You guessed it, I know this from personal experience; I take things way too seriously instead of looking at my mistakes as feedback and learning from the experience.

I’ve had to learn to laugh at myself when I make mistakes and say, oh well.

Let me ask

Is it necessary to always live on the serious side of life?

With this in mind, would it be better to step outside ourselves and look for the simple joy and happiness that life may have hidden in our mistakes? What if, instead, we look at mistakes as redirection to get us where we want to go?

Instead a light-hearted attempt to get us to know ourselves a little bit better. To not be so worried about what others think of us.

It’s okay to make more mistakes.

Now, this is important; it takes years to master skills. What comes along with that skill mastery is making mistakes.

That is the best way for us to learn.

Why does this work? Can you give me an example of a mistake that did not come with learning?

As the saying goes, I’ll never make that mistake again. Stick with me now; mistakes shock us out of auto-pilot and back into the current moment. Besides, they allow us to laugh at ourselves to learn from our mistakes. To know better for next time. They lead to the life that we want to have.

Don't get me wrong, there is comfort in the easy answers. Those mistakes, they’re the difference makers. That learning is the piece that I personally remember. It’s not the memorization of the subject. The mistakes that I made along the way gave the most fantastic feedback and learning.

Do you have an example in your life that instead of looking at the mistake as feedback, you chose to dwell in the mistake and beat yourself up mentally? What good did that do? The mistake is in the past; nothing you can do will change it. What you can do is take your new found knowledge from that mistake and do better the next time around.

After all, life is about perception. How you choose to perceive it is up to you and only you.

If you need a little help looking at life from a new perspective, I’ve got you. I help my private coaching clients do so. The link to work with me is right here or down below.

✁ Just a Snippet

Here is just a snippet of the important points you know for the skimmer in you. 🤪

We are so impatient. We want to have everything right now.
We want to be a master and not put in the work to be a master.
When we make mistakes, it gives us feedback on what we should do differently.
If we float through life without laughing at ourselves, what fun is that?
I know this from personal experience; I take things way too seriously. I’ve had to learn to laugh at myself when I make mistakes and say, oh well.
Is it better to step outside ourselves and look for the simple joy and happiness that life may have hidden in our mistake?
What if, instead, we look at mistakes as redirection to get us where we want to go?
A light-hearted attempt to get us to know ourselves a little bit better. To not be so worried about what others think of us.
It takes years to master skills; mistake-making comes with that skill mastery.
That is the best way for us to learn. It is the best feedback.
Can you give me an example of a mistake that did not come with learning?
There is comfort in the easy answers. Those mistakes are the difference makers. That learning is the piece you remember. It’s not the memorization of the subject but rather the mistakes that give the most memorable feedback and learning.

Private Coaching

Why do I believe in the power of private coaching?

Because it is truly life-changing. When your coach asks you that mind-blowing question that suddenly allows you to see what you've been missing all along that was literally right in front of your face.

You just need someone with a different perspective to help you see it.

Are you ready to experience life from a different perspective?

Spots Limited Apply Today!

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The Voice Of Self-Doubt

by Michele | Online Business

Doubting Michele is at it again. I’m guessing you can relate to me. I find that anytime I’m about to break through or level up doubting Michele begins to work overtime in my mind. Anytime that I’m exceeding my goals, feeling extra proud of myself for my decisions, and at peace with my life that voice of self-doubt begins to flare up and get really loud.

No Mercy

My voice of self-doubt has no mercy. Therefore, she starts to bring up the failures of the past instead of looking forward to all of my possibilities.

You see my doubting Michele is the scared little girl that doesn’t want to stick out. No Friend, she is the little girl that doesn’t want to draw attention to herself for fear that she will be teased or even laughed at.

Further, this voice is the Michele that doesn’t believe in her possibilities. After all, it’s the Michele that is not confident and thankful for her very own healthy skin.

After all, that is the Michele that doesn’t believe with her whole heart that God has her back.

In fact, she is so silly to believe all those things.

Do you know the voice of self-doubt?

Do you know the voice of self-doubt that I’m talking about? In other words, the voice that tries to limit you from your greatness. To put it differently, the voice in your head that doesn’t want you to get out of the comfort zone for fear of judgment or rejection.

The voice of self-doubt is selfish

What the voice of self-doubt doesn’t get is, by playing small and hiding really we are being selfish. Which is the complete opposite of what most of us want to accomplish in our lives and how we want to be seen in our lives.

What most people don’t realize, is that voice of self-doubt is not thinking about anyone but themselves.

They are caught up in their own made-up thoughts. Now, this is important, they’re either stuck in the past or worrying about the future.

Shh, the voice of self-doubt

These days I catch on to her tricks pretty quickly. As a result, I pick up what she’s laying down. In fact, I laugh about it and examine every single doubt. As well as every single limiting thought.

Asking myself “Is this true?” “Is this what I truly believe about myself or is it my fears?”

Then I chuckle at doubting Michele and thank her for keeping me safe.

After all, I gently remind her that the LORD gave her everything she needed to be an amazing wife, mother, friend, daughter, sister, business owner, and life coach.

Do you listen to that voice?

Friends, how do you handle your voice of self-doubt? Do you fall for their tricks or do you gently remind them why you are amazing?

Each of us is amazing and we get to choose to believe that for ourselves. We get to choose to shh that voice of self-doubt when it tries to dull our sparkle.

All of us are made to sparkle and shine on everyone that comes in contact with us.

Because we need to be the light that people are pulled to when they have their own voice of self-doubt. When they need to feel loved, cared for, and appreciated.

If we listen to the voice of self-doubt it can consume us with negativity. There is no peace and no joy in our negativity.

Friend, if you need that person in your life to shh the voice of self-doubt until you’re able to do it yourself I invite you to apply to work with me.

Complete the application for private coaching here is the link.

✁ Just a Snippet

Here is just a snippet of the important points, you know for the skimmer in you. 🤪

Consequently, anytime that I’m exceeding my goals, feeling extra proud of myself for my decisions, and at peace with my life that voice of self-doubt begins to flare up and get really loud.
She starts to bring up the failures of the past instead of looking forward towards possibility.
It’s the Michele that doesn’t believe in her possibilities. It the Michele that is not confident and thankful for her own skin.
What doubting Michele doesn’t get is, by playing small and hiding she is being selfish. Which is the complete opposite of what she wants in life.
She is not thinking about anyone but herself. She is caught up in her own made-up thoughts of self-doubt.
I examine every single doubt. Every single limiting thought.
Asking myself if this is true? Is this what I truly believe about myself or is it my fears?
I chuckle at doubting Michele and thank her for keeping me safe.
Then I gently remind her that Lord gave her everything she needed to be an amazing life coach.
Friends, how do you handle your voice of self-doubt? Do you fall for their tricks or do you gently remind them why you are amazing?

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Little Side Note

You have the power to quiet the voice of self-doubt. Yes, you do. I know it can be hard to believe this. Overcome your voice of self-doubt by journaling on your fears and your self-doubt. Think through all the worst-case scenarios, let your fears flow through you. Create a plan for how you would overcome the worst-case scenario. Doing this will help you work through self-doubt and fear and make peace with the worst-case scenario. You’ve got this. I believe in you.

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