Oh, my goodness. In this blog post, I'm sharing with you a secret: people will always judge you. I'm so happy to have you here. This is because when I first started my online business, I really, really struggled to put myself out there in fear of judgment until this one thing happened.

I know you're just curious about that one thing.

When I attended a church meeting, I experienced something that made me overcome my fear of judgment and put myself out there for my online business. As a result, I realized it didn't matter. People will always judge; just do what needs to be done already.

Feeling judged by others.

I’m curious, are you at all wondering what happened at church that left me feeling judged by others? A church should be a judgment-free zone, right?

Nope, not that night.

While I was sitting in the meeting, everyone was looking at the speaker. The former speaker in me just happened to scan the room. As I surveyed the faces, I ensured everyone was catching what the speaker was saying.

As I scanned the room, I turned my head to catch the person sitting next to me. There was a solid expression of disapproval on this person's face as they looked at me up and down.

Honestly, I don't know exactly what was going on in their minds, but I do know at that moment that I was being judged for something.

Just a guess. The fact that I am wearing leggings, tennis shoes, and a sweatshirt to this church meeting may cause some disapproval. Compared to everyone else, this was a bit more casual.

Get past the fear of being judged.

What truly matters is how you actually judge yourself.

What are the standards that you set for yourself?

I'm curious, friend. Have you ever been in a similar situation where you can pretty much tell that somebody is judging you?

I'd love to hear your story. Tell me all about it in the comments below.

I appreciate you; thanks for supporting me and stopping by my blog.

I hope you have a wonderful week, and I'll see you back here next week.

I wonder if you're falling into the same trap that I fell into the first few years of my online business. What's the one trap you should avoid? Okay, let me put this out there. It's probably not just one trap. I've fallen into lots of entrepreneurial mindset traps on my journey with my business over the last six years. But this one has long-term effects if you don't nip it in the bud. It is to stop looking to others for your answers.

Listen up, friend.

I really want you to hear me on this one, and I want you to learn from my mistakes much earlier than I did in my online business. Not learning this early on set me back in my success.
You see.
Rather than listening to what I naturally speak about. The areas that I would spend my free time researching and learning more about were the things that my friends and family would simply come to me and ask for my input.

Rather than relying on my inner knowledge. I would turn to others to help make the decision for my business. What type of business should I be building that would be right for me and my business?

It came down to this. Self-Trust

All of my turns to others resulted from my lack of trust in myself.
Now, this is key; if you take anything away from this today, it's this one thing.

I want you to trust yourself.

I want you to trust yourself and trust your decisions because you know better than anyone else. They've not walked in your shoes. They have not gone through the same life lessons as you have. Above all, they have not gone through your same struggles.

How to stop looking to others for your answers.

Let me ask, what are you talking about when the words flow out of you easily and effortlessly?
What have you worked so hard to overcome in your life or with your online business?

Imposter Syndrome is involved too.

While somebody out there may talk about all the same things that you want to talk about, they do not talk about it in the same way that you do from your own unique experience.

Let me tell you, when you're talking about it from your own point of view, there is no way that you can be an imposter. You are well aware of the personal path you have walked.

I'll say it again because I like to sound like a broken record. They have not walked in your shoes, and you have not walked in their shoes.

Who you connect with and how you say something will be totally different from how somebody else would say something. Yes, it's probably very similar; however, your energy draws people to you.

You see, your person, they're going to go, yep, that's my guy, my gal, my lady.
That's who I need to be working with and who I need to be spending time with because they get it.

They know, they understand they're in my head,

My own discontentment.

I ignored and pushed down those things that led to my dissatisfaction with my business.
I told myself that I was happy.

Besides, I was happy with what I was doing with my business. Right?

I was happy with the business I was creating.

After all, it was exactly what I needed to build to support my family.

Even though it was not necessarily true, do you hear yourself in me?

What's the outcome of looking to others for answers?

Do you know what happens when you build a business that you're not truly passionate about?

A business that you thought you should build because you heard it was the best business to make money online?

It feels difficult. It doesn't feel like you.

And all of a sudden, you will find yourself sabotaging all the success that you've had in the past and worked to achieve.
You'll always feel overwhelmed and like you're hustling. All those other people, they aren't you.

Now. It is important that you take everything in, the advice you have been given.

But know that it's you that gets to decide what is best for you in the end. They are not you, and this is not their online business.

Trust yourself, friend.

Keep in mind that your perception will always be slightly different from mine. You may be just what that one person needs if you can explain how you overcame your challenges.

They need to hear from you.

So take your time to figure out how you can best serve. However, don't get caught up in this decision and procrastinate.