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The Answer Will Always Be No Unless You Ask For What You Want

The Answer Will Always Be No Unless You Ask For What You Want

Do you know what will happen if you don't ask for what you want? Is the fear of rejection holding you back from asking for what you really want? As I tell my children, if you don't ask, the answer will always be no. While at the same time, the comfort zone feels safe and rejection-free. It doesn't help you succeed and get what you want in your life and in your business.

Do you know what else you're doing?

You're not betting on yourself. You do not believe in yourself and your ability to get a yes.

By choosing to make the decision for someone else, you are also not allowing yourself to learn from failure. Learning from mistakes is one of the best ways to grow in life and business.

And what else are you doing if you don't ask for what you want?

You are automatically telling your brain to stop looking for those types of opportunities because it would be a waste of time. Because you're not even willing to try, the answer will always be no.

You have to bet on yourself.

You need to at least try and fail.

As a result of your failure, you become better.

That failure is your feedback or a redirection to where you actually need to be heading. If you're afraid of failure, then you'll never succeed.

This is because you will never take any risks. And without taking risks, you won't learn anything at all. In other words, your fear of rejection will keep you in the failure loop. If you fail to learn, you'll keep failing.

Trust me; I get it.

It's not my first rodeo. I've made the decision countless times not to ask for something I wanted for fear of rejection.

Putting yourself out there for fear of rejection and getting a no is difficult. Not believing in yourself is a struggle too.

Which one do you want to pick?

Because one of those hard choices is liable to lead you to not being content with yourself and with who you are as a person.

In the long run, not being content with yourself is even harder, in my opinion.

Not being content with yourself, friend, brings on a whole new level of dissatisfaction and unhappiness.

So let me ask. Where is fear of rejection showing up in your life? 

Where in your life and in your business aren't you even throwing your hat in the ring? You are not even attempting to get a no, which also means you're not even attempting to get a yes.

Consequently, where did you take away the possibility of even getting a yes?

Because you didn't even try, whatever it is you're striving for, you'll never achieve it.

You will never achieve it if you don't have the confidence to at least put yourself out there to get rejected. Once again, that rejection is gold.

It allows you to see where you need to improve, to turn a no into a yes.

It builds up your confidence with each rejection you receive.

Michele Duwe from Miss Task Answer Always No | Fear Of Rejection

The answer will always be no 99% of the time.

When I was in college, I worked as a telemarketer.

I know, super glamorous, right?
In my experience, ten no's usually lead to one yes.

So change your perspective. Change your perspective on no, and ask for what you want.

Michele Duwe from Miss Task Answer Always No | Fear Of Rejection

The answer will always be no unless you ask for what you want.

Here's how to look at it. With this no, I'm one step closer to getting a yes. Instead of looking for a yes, I want you to seek a no. Taking into account, the no will help you better craft your message.

Or to understand who would be a better fit or a connection for you and your business.

✍️ So go ahead, tell me down in the comments what is a no that you have been too hesitant to put yourself out there for fear of rejection.

💗 Because I would love to be able to hear it, tell me, what is keeping you from your heart's desire?

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Why You Can’t Find the Answers? Stop Looking to Others for Your Answers

Why You Can’t Find the Answers? Stop Looking to Others for Your Answers

Michele Duwe from Miss Task Stop Looking to Others for Your Answers

I wonder if you're falling into the same trap that I fell into the first few years of my online business. What's the one trap you should avoid? Okay, let me put this out there. It's probably not just one trap. I've fallen into lots of entrepreneurial mindset traps on my journey with my business over the last six years. But this one has long-term effects if you don't nip it in the bud. It is to stop looking to others for your answers.

Listen up, friend.

I really want you to hear me on this one, and I want you to learn from my mistakes much earlier than I did in my online business. Not learning this early on set me back in my success.
You see.
Rather than listening to what I naturally speak about. The areas that I would spend my free time researching and learning more about were the things that my friends and family would simply come to me and ask for my input.

Rather than relying on my inner knowledge. I would turn to others to help make the decision for my business. What type of business should I be building that would be right for me and my business?

It came down to this. Self-Trust

All of my turns to others resulted from my lack of trust in myself.
Now, this is key; if you take anything away from this today, it's this one thing.

I want you to trust yourself.

I want you to trust yourself and trust your decisions because you know better than anyone else. They've not walked in your shoes. They have not gone through the same life lessons as you have. Above all, they have not gone through your same struggles.

 

And you will struggle.

 

You will know that the struggle is real if you are not playing into your own interests and your own strengths.
If you're anything at all like me, you find yourself staring at a blank screen, attempting to come up with some content to share on your blog or social media.

It will be an endless cycle of start and stop. All of a sudden, you'll feel burned out because the words just aren't coming. You become frustrated and wonder why these words are not flowing to me as easily as they have in the past.

So you spend time Google-ing for inspiration, and you just continue to bang your head on the wall.

I'm left wondering, am I the only one struggling to write content for my blog and social media? Is it only me? Is this normal? I know I do it every now and again still.

Michele Duwe from Miss Task Stop Looking to Others for Your Answers

How to stop looking to others for your answers.

Let me ask, what are you talking about when the words flow out of you easily and effortlessly?
What have you worked so hard to overcome in your life or with your online business?

Imposter Syndrome is involved too.

While somebody out there may talk about all the same things that you want to talk about, they do not talk about it in the same way that you do from your own unique experience.

Let me tell you, when you're talking about it from your own point of view, there is no way that you can be an imposter. You are well aware of the personal path you have walked.

I'll say it again because I like to sound like a broken record. They have not walked in your shoes, and you have not walked in their shoes.

Who you connect with and how you say something will be totally different from how somebody else would say something. Yes, it's probably very similar; however, your energy draws people to you.

You see, your person, they're going to go, yep, that's my guy, my gal, my lady.
That's who I need to be working with and who I need to be spending time with because they get it.

They know, they understand they're in my head,

My own discontentment.

I ignored and pushed down those things that led to my dissatisfaction with my business.
I told myself that I was happy.

Besides, I was happy with what I was doing with my business. Right?

I was happy with the business I was creating.

After all, it was exactly what I needed to build to support my family.

Even though it was not necessarily true, do you hear yourself in me?

What's the outcome of looking to others for answers?

Do you know what happens when you build a business that you're not truly passionate about?

A business that you thought you should build because you heard it was the best business to make money online?

It feels difficult. It doesn't feel like you.

And all of a sudden, you will find yourself sabotaging all the success that you've had in the past and worked to achieve.
You'll always feel overwhelmed and like you're hustling. All those other people, they aren't you.

Now. It is important that you take everything in, the advice you have been given.

But know that it's you that gets to decide what is best for you in the end. They are not you, and this is not their online business.

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Little Side Note

Here’s a fun little bit of commonly misused idioms knowledge. Did you know that Nip It In the Butt really is Nip It In the Bud? In case you are interested, here is an article. 

Trust yourself, friend.

Keep in mind that your perception will always be slightly different from mine. You may be just what that one person needs if you can explain how you overcame your challenges.

They need to hear from you.

So take your time to figure out how you can best serve. However, don't get caught up in this decision and procrastinate.

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7 Easy Ways To Overcome Negative Thoughts

7 Easy Ways To Overcome Negative Thoughts

I'm sure this is coming as a huge shock to you. Huge! You must be curious about this big, shocking news that I'm sure will knock your socks off. The answer? Your negative thoughts are affecting your happiness. I know, right? Mind-blowing. JK. While we all know this information isn't shocking news, it can still be a daily hurdle to overcome.
It's not surprising that we all have negative thoughts. We're human, after all. But if our negative thoughts get in the way of our happiness, we need to do something about it.

And on top of that, those negative thoughts keep you stuck. And I'm not stopping there; they may even make you wear the poor me badge.

But that's not all they do. They leave you feeling sorry for yourself in all kinds of situations in life.

Hey, I'm not throwing any stones. Because I know myself and my nature, and I can also get caught in those negative thoughts.

So let's go ahead and break down some of the different ways that we can get out of that negative thought process.

Furthermore, if you are the one wearing the poor me badge. I want to ask you to remove it and stop thinking that way.

That's why today, let's discuss seven ways to kick that negativity to the curb and say goodbye to it once and for all.

One. Tell Yourself to Stop It

Don't you wish you could overcome negative thoughts altogether? Basically, when you catch yourself in those negative thoughts, I want you to say, Stop it. That's not true.

Then I want you to go ahead and back it up with all the reasons why that negative thought is not true. Because I'm sure, you have evidence in your life to show otherwise.

What is that past evidence? How is this not true at all?

Two. Journal to the root cause

You're gonna move ahead and break down that negative thought. In other words, get a piece of paper and begin drilling down into that negative thought. Journal until you figure out your root cause and what's causing it. Do this by asking, “What else” to get to the root.

I want you to write down that negative thought that you're having. Then I want you to journal on why you are having this thought.

What is triggering this thought? How does it make you actually feel? And what else could you think of instead?

Three. Talk to someone

For me, when I'm having a bad day, I talk to my sister. Yes, I know my sister, not my husband. I always do. We have crazy similar girl thinking. Truly it is crazy how much we think alike. And I know she will have the exact words to say to me to kick me out of that negative thinking pattern. As a result, I pick up my phone and send her a Marco Polo.

Letting go of all my thoughts and feelings circling in my head. All those thoughts and feelings cause that negative thought pattern.

Four. Get some fresh air

Okay, so this next idea here, I will admit that I enjoy this one so much more during the warmer months than the colder ones. This is because I live in Iowa, and it's cold outside. I'm not one for cold weather.

But getting outside for some fresh air. Either a walk or run is still the most effective way to clear that negative thought pattern. Calm the rumbling in your head.

As a matter of fact, this method happens to also be Bo and Saylor's favorite way for me to overcome my negative thoughts. Get your walking shoes, your earbuds, and your favorite happy, upbeat playlist.

There's nothing like fresh air and a good playlist to clear those negative thoughts. And if your negative thoughts are really bad, you may need to play the Happy song on repeat. 

Michele Duwe from Miss Task Overcoming Negative Thoughts

Five. Be Grateful

All things considered, be grateful and count your blessings. When you think of all the things you're thankful for to help you overcome your negative thoughts.

Do this out loud, and say out loud to yourself all the things you're thankful for.

What is the complete list of all the things you're grateful for in your life? You can put anything on your list, no matter how big or small. If you've been around for a while, you know coffee and the freedom to drink it are on the list of things that I'm thankful for.

Six. Get Out Of Your Head To Overcome Your Negative Thoughts

The next idea for you to overcome your negative thoughts is to get out of your own head.

In my case, I like the insight timer because I am able to overcome my own negative thinking by getting out of my head.

Simply do a quick search inside the Insight Timer on negative thoughts. As you can see, it will bring up various results such as music or meditations with varying lengths of time. Whatever you need to actually get out of your negative thoughts, get out of your own head.

Ugh, we can be our own worst enemies sometimes. Am I right about that?

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Seven. Kindness to Overcome Negative Thoughts

I love this next one. And that's doing something thoughtful for somebody else to brighten their day.

Given your current state, go ahead and turn your attention to somebody else. What can you do to brighten up their day? If you could do one thing to brighten up someone else's day, what would it be? Is it sending them flowers? Thinking back to sending flowers to my Grandma. Knowing it brightened her day always made me happy and cheerful.

What is something kind you can do for somebody else? A random act of kindness is sure to totally kick that overwhelming negative thinking to the curb. Trust me when I say it will help you overcome that negative thinking within no time.

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Little Side Note

We are a product of our beliefs. Combat your biggest negative thought with a positive affirmation or mantra. How are you able to change the words that you say to yourself? Belief in yourself and your service is a daily commitment. 

Bonus: Cuddle With A Pet

While I was planning to keep it to seven, here's one quick bonus tip as well. If you have a puppy. There is nothing like cuddling time on the sofa with your pet to feel happy and overcome those negative thoughts.

The 7 plus one way to overcome negative thoughts are:

  • Tell Yourself to Stop It
  • Journal to the root cause
  • Talk To Someone You Trust
  • Get Some Fresh Air
  • Be Grateful
  • Get Out Of Your Head
  • Brighten Someone Else's Day
  • Cuddle With A Pet

Thank you so much for reading. I appreciate you. I'd love to hear in the comments if you have any other ideas on things that you do to overcome negative thoughts. I hope you have a wonderful week.