Are you letting judgment get in the way of your entrepreneurial dream?

I speak from my own personal experiences with letting judgment get in the way of my entrepreneurial dreams.

It was crippling to the growth of my business when I put more focus on the fear of what others would think, instead of focusing on the impact I could make.

What’s a midwest girl know about running a business anyway? Yep, this is a true thought that my inner voice would throw up at me when I’d get out of my comfort zone.

Embarrassment, Awkward, Worrying

The fear of judgment can make us feel embarrassed, awkward, worried and a number of other feelings that surface for us. All of these emotions get in the way of our happiness and making a true impact.

It can be difficult to overcome that little inner voice in our heads that doesn’t have the same hopes and dreams for our future. It’s okay, that voice is just worried about keeping us safe.

Stop caring what others think

Why do we care what others think so much anyway? Really, do people notice as much as we notice? Hmm, the answer is no.

Let’s face it. That same little inner voice is also always on the lookout for “What’s in it for me”

Really in our small business do we want to work with people that feel the need to judge what we do?

Shouldn’t we care more about the person that feels drawn to us? As, much as I feel the need to be loved by everyone. I know that I’m not everybody’s cup of tea. I continue to do the mindset work to be okay with that. What it all comes down to is, I want to make an impact and provide value to someone. I’ve said it before, the keyword for me is ONE.

I’m pretty sure I’ll never get over caring what other think, I’ve given myself the mindset tools to overcome the fear quicker.

I choose to no longer allow judgment to get in the way of my success. Because business is easy when I take messy imperfect action. That means that I need to emotionally release the judgers. That mindset is what empowers me to stop caring what others think.

Stop judging yourself

Ohh, this is a big one, Friend. Get clear on the items that you’re letting judgment get in the way. Okay, now how are YOU judging yourself regarding this judgment?

We are our own worst enemy. Take a look at yourself and figure out what you’re judging yourself about. Stop it.

That thing, that is getting in the way of our business success. That thing that we feel others judge us on. That’s a mirror into our own self-doubt. Think I’m off my rocker about this?

Get out your journal and I guess we’ll see how off I am. Circle back to me, Friend, tell me what did you discover.

I’ve set the goal to record a YouTube video to go along with my blog post every week. Does this feel easy yet? Heck no. But I know in time and practice, I will not feel so embarrassed, awkward, and worried about what others think.

All those feels that I listed above, are the same things that I think I’m getting judged on. Friends, I’m not foolish enough to believe that I’m not getting judge, but I’m not letting judgment get in the way of creating an impact on one person.

Your own judgments will be mirrored back to you by others. Because it is what you’re looking for, someone to prove you right.

Here is what else I have to say on the judgment.

Be confident

Live your life for yourself. Is it simple to let go of caring what others think? Heck No! Do I still have times when I let silly things keep me up at night worrying what others think? Yes, I do. Anything can seem bigger than it really is if I let my mind spiral.

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Little Side Note

If You’re Feeling Like A Failure, You’re Not Video from Reese at Yes Supply.

✁ Just a Snippet

Here is just a snippet of the important points, you know for the skimmer in you. 🤪

Embarrassment, Awkward, Worrying emotions get in the way of our happiness and making a true impact.
I know that I’m not everybody’s cup of tea and that’s okay.
We are our own worst enemy. Take a look at yourself and figure out what you’re judging yourself about. Stop it.
Live your life for yourself, it’s your path enjoy it.

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How to Overcome Failure in Your Business

by Michele | Online Business

How to Overcome Failure in Your Business

Have you experienced failure in your business? You’re not alone. Friend, I’ve been there and done that! Do you want to know the best way to overcome failure in your business?

Wait for it.

It’s to change your perception of how you view failure in our online business.

It’s Only Failure When You Stop

Once I learned this simple mindset trick, I was able to overcome my fear of failing. It’s only failure if you stop trying. Failure is not a bad thing. This is not a pass or a fail. It just means you need to look for a new path.

Albert Einstein once said, “You never fail until you stop trying.”

If something isn’t working. Reevaluate and look at the feedback as to why it’s not working. Find a different way. There is always another way to do something.

Proverb 16:9 NRSV
A person’s heart plans his way, but the Lord determines his steps.

Look for a new path

Look for a new path forward when you come up against a roadblock. That roadblock is not meant to discourage you but challenge you to find another path.

In my NPL certification, it states there is no failure only feedback.

Step back and look at the situation. What did you not see at first? Do a mind sweep of all the possible ways you can find a new way.

When I find myself being a Negative Nancy because it’s not going according to plan, I have to stop myself and say out loud. “That’s not true.”

I reframe the situation in my mind to bring me clarity.

Focus

If that doesn’t work, then I evaluate where I’m focusing my time. Is it moving towards my desired outcome or away.

If the answer is away, my next action will be to figure out how I got off the path to help regain focus and clarity.

Look for time leaks in your day that are causing you to lose focus on your outcome.

Stay in it for the long haul

You deserve to follow through on your promise to yourself. A promise to yourself is just as important as a promise to anyone else. Too often we put our promise behind the promises we give to our clients. That shouldn’t be the case.

When it gets hard look for the reason why, look for ways that you can make it easier.

Trust me I know, I’m the Queen of Complicated.

When I make a plan, I make sure I’m asking could there be an easier way. Is there a place that I could leave a t uncrossed or an i undotted to receive the same results but make it simpler.

Here is the video that goes along with the post. I think I’ve mentioned before I use the same outline for both, but I write and record them separately. Meaning it’s not the same content. Yes, I know there is a simpler way but I like doing it for now.

When you need help with your promise

Have you always struggled with keeping commitments and promises to yourself? LOTS of people do. Have you heard of Gretchen Rubin’s book The Four Tendencies? You may be an Obliger. Take the quiz to find out your personality profile. The Four Tendencies Quiz or read the book, that great too.

If this is you, and you need outside accountability to follow through get yourself an accountability bestie.

Ahem… my Clarity Muse Mentorship may be great for you. js 🥰

A business bestie will keep you going when it gets hard and you want to stop.

As I said previously, stopping only guarantees failure.

But, tell yourself that’s not who you are! You are not a person that stops and gives up. You’re a person that looks at the feedback and keeps going.

We believe whatever we tell ourselves. Make sure it’s what you want and not want you don’t want.

You’re not alone, believe me, Friend, I can get caught in the “don’t want” it’s a practice. When I find myself focusing on what I don’t want, I look at how I can reframe it into what I do want.

Simply flip the script… Just say, that’s not true and express what you want.

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Little Side Note

I believe you are a person that finds a way, even when it is hard.

✁ Just a Snippet
Here is just a snippet of the important points, you know for the skimmer in you. 🤪

Failure only when you stop trying
Not working, reevaluate and look at the feedback
That failure wants you to look for a new path
NPL says, There is no failure only feedback
Where are you focusing your time? Is it moving you toward your outcome or away?
Stay in it for the long haul
You deserve to follow through on your promise
When it’s hard, look for the reason why
Need help with your commitments? Get an accountability partner
Stopping will always guarantee failure
Tell yourself: I’m not a person that gives up

You’ve got this Friend, I believe in you.

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Write Your Way To Clarity

by Michele | Online Business

Writing Your Way To Clarity In Your Online Business

True confession. This is the second time I’ve written this post on writing your way to clarity and the second time I recorded my YouTube Video.

Even though my mantra this year is…

Business is easy when I take messy imperfect action.

I did it anyway and here is why.

Journaling to Clarity 🦄

Journaling to clarity was my topic this week that I felt called to talk about. I recorded the video during my blocked scheduled time and the next morning during my own journaling practice, my message from the day before just didn’t feel right. Something was missing, so what did I do.

I continued to write my way to clarity. I asked myself all the questions, why didn’t feel right. If I did it again what would I say differently? If I record it again, will I still feel integrity with my mantra for this year? The more it poured out the more I knew that I need to do it again.

Why journaling taps into your inner passion

How can it really be that powerful, it’s just writing stuff down? When you do what is called stream of consciousness journaling it taps into your inner passion. It doesn’t matter if you can read it, just get everything out of your head onto the piece of paper.

When I was laid off from my sales job. It was the first time in my life that I started to journal. This was long before I listened to anything about journaling.

I had way too many things going on in my head and it was the only thing that I found that cleared them all out. Little did I know that it has been coined steam of consciousness. It was just writing stuff down that was filling up my head.

That is a time of true self-discovery. At this time, I had A LOT of feelings that I needed to work through, more than I ever could have imagined. It helped me to heal buried emotions from childhood. It all came out, and that was good.

Writing Your Way To Clarity In Your Online Business

Through all the deep journaling it gave me the clarity that I needed. Once I became clear I stopped.

Until I began to feel like my wheels were spinning in my business. I headed back to my deep journaling to get all the thoughts out of my head.

Funny, when I started journaling it was on the things that I knew I didn’t want. As I was frustrated with the direction I saw myself headed.

This came to me from repeatedly attracting clients that I didn’t want. Because on the other side of the thing that you don’t want is the thing that you do want.

For me, it was really easy to pick out the things that drained my energy and didn’t bring out my best self.

But, now journaling is different for me.

Journaling is planning from the place of where I want to go

It’s writing out my dream week or my dream project. Future scripting what I’d like to bring into my life and business. It’s about becoming the person my future self loves.

Journaling can be as easy or difficult as you choose

If you’re thinking too much about it. I think journaling can become difficult. If you’re lost on where to start with journaling, here are a few clarity prompts to get you started.

The mack daddy of them all – Why do I want my work from home business to be successful? This is the thing that keeps you going when it gets hard.

What would my dream business be?

If I would be guaranteed to make money, what would I do?

Here is take two of my video. I’d love your questions.

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Little Side Note

“Journal writing, when it becomes a ritual for transformation, is not only life-changing but life-expanding.” Jen Williamson

✁ Just a Snippet

Here is just a snippet of the important points, you know for the skimmer in you. 🤪

Writing bring out things that you didn’t even know were there.
Start from what you don’t want if what you want seems difficult to come up with.
Journaling is just asking yourself questions you’d ask your best friend if they were struggling to know what to do.
What to know more about the stream of consciousness writing? Check out these two YouTube videos.
- From Lavendaire
- From Megan Minns

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